Why is rebounding inhumane?
So you just had your heart wrenching breakup then the next day you're back in the dating scene wanting to find another human who will fix your broken heart… familiar? Yes it’s called rebound. My point of view says rebounding is inhumane. You haven’t healed yet here you are flirting with yet another victim. I say NO to rebound, it makes me sick. Please be considerate enough that the next person you are going to date right after your break up is a clear victim of your circumstances. The right way to heal is not dating right away. Take time to reflect, rethink, review, reevaluate what went wrong in your previous relationship that way you will be able to figure out what happened and how to prevent it from happening again. Rebounding victimized the next person after the breakup. You will bleed in a slight instance of the same situation you experienced with your previous partner and unhealed people tend to bleed everywhere without proper healing. Take time to know yourself more, understand your feelings, heal your inner child, introspect, retrospect, analyze, regulate, calm your nervous system and anything else that can address all the hurt and wash it off with realizations.
Rebounding is cruel because you start on an uneven ground. The next person will suffer from your instability, confusion, hurt, and all sorts of feelings that haven't been addressed yet from a fresh breakup. Rebounds rarely last because of these factors. It’s unfair for the next person to be there and just comfort you for most times you are still bleeding. Never date anyone when you haven’t had any peace in your life because it will only cause temporary relationships. If you really love yourself, take the time to heal on your own. You don’t need an immediate replacement, you need more time to know yourself better. The right one will come along when you are already whole and ready to love not in fragments but wholeheartedly. May you all heal through God’s grace. I’m bouncing off.
