Speckles n Spectrum

I’d like to share my 2 cents about Anne Curtis and Jericho Rosales’ movie: The Loved One. People might be confused why this lovely aesthetically pleasing piece of a story ended up in a lonely but peaceful separation. Things were going so well. It seemed that both parties were perfect for each other. No heavy physical arguments yet they started drifting apart throughout the end. 

Here’s my take on it. This movie is a fool proof of mentality differences. Ellie was part of the elite class and Eric came from the working class. Ellie grew up in an environment of affluence where she was well aware about the reality of life and social responsibility while Eric grew up in a kind of survival mode where the only goal is about gaining success to alleviate his family from suffering again. Always about family responsibility. There goes the clash. 

Eric thought having a nice job, getting married, having kids and providing everything for his family is all there is in life. That’s fulfillment for him. On the other end here goes Ellie wanting a family too and all what Eric wants yet she has something more in her: that nagging feeling of social responsibility. Fulfillment for her does not only ends in family responsibility but also includes a world view that she has a mission and a purpose to help others in her community and the world. The conflict started when Eric thought that the volunteering acts done by Ellie are only about superficiality cuz he can’t comprehend why there is a need to be of service to the world when for him his little family is all enough for the both of them.

If I were in Ellie’s shoes I would decline marrying Eric too. Choosing a partner with the same core values, morality and level of thinking is very important. Marrying someone that doesn’t align with your views even though they are kind will end up in a disastrous marriage.You will experience everyday for real having to explain every decision you are making, every choice will be questioned and that would be a misery especially for a freespirited purposeful soul.

In the end the smartest choice is to partways because that’s the right thing to do and it’s the decision that can give them serenity rather than staying together but gradually drifting apart because of their ideologies. I love happy endings but sometimes the best ending for lovers is to be apart. Love is not enough. It can’t give you peace of mind if it’s the only thing left holding you together. May you all find the love that’s aligned in all ways than one. Shalom.

photo by SM Cinema