Speckles n Spectrum

Mind you DNA and genes are important too. Remember most things are hereditary, you wouldn’t want bad manners inherited by your offspring. That short fuse, that criminal and vindictive mind, that rudeness, the unethical ideologies, the disrespectful behavior, etc. You know what I mean. There might be things that might not be hereditary but remember kids learn from witnessing behavior and actions and bad manners might not be hereditary but it’s observable and acquirable, and you don’t want that ever. I don’t know about you but I don’t want those characteristics passed on to my kids, not now, not ever.

This isn’t just about finding the right partner, it's also about doing the work to be the right partner. Finding the better half is becoming the better half as well. You can't attract someone if you haven’t worked on becoming the right one too. This goes both ways. You don’t have the right to demand something you yourself can’t put on the table too. Relationships are not always fairy tales, they have their ups and downs and the one thing you need is a person who makes it more difficult and complicated. You need someone who’ll be there to ease the pain and balance things out, someone who will share the burden not add to it and you need to be someone who’s willing too to share the load and not to add more to it. You both need to share the same values and moralities and be willing to be partners in crime to make this relationship work. It’s not rocket science, it's just a matter of true love. Love may not be enough but it is enough to wholeheartedly change for the better. May you all find the love that you truly deserve. Ciao.

In 2025, November 15 to be exact at 3pm I suddenly had the urge and decided to move to Pasig for good. Why? Because I want to marry their Mayor haha. Kidding aside with no bias, I moved to Pasig City from staying for more than 4 years in Mandaluyong because of an experiment. I wanted to know for myself if the policies, projects, good governance, etc are true and not just hyped by social media and the media in general. 

Let’s have a back story. It was the year of 1992 when I first heard the song “Anak ng Pasig" and since then that reality was inculcated in my 7 year old brain. I somehow promised myself I will never live in Pasig. The song gave me a notion how environmentally fucked up is Pasig. But then here comes 2025 and I’ve found myself relocating for the mere purpose of validating all claims about good governance. Wanting to prove that it’s not just good on paper and in social media. I’ve been here for almost 7 months and boy, I can attest that everything is legit. Don’t get me wrong, Pasig is far from perfect but when it comes to public service it’s a frakkin’ gold standard. We have politicians here that work and truly deliver. They define public service in a whole new level and to the truest of its essence. In the Republic of Pasig (people are joking that we’re not part of the Philippines here because our politicians here are in a different ballgame) there is no such thing as corruption. Maybe there’s a bit but the city government is slowly eliminating it one step at a time. 

In Pasig overpricing has a consequence, moreso corruption, redtape, even bullying of PWDs or catcalling will make you accountable for your actions. They say “malayo pa, pero malayo na.” Here the citizens are protected and well served. Almost everything is digitalized to avoid the “trapo” way of helping citizens. Less falling in line more of a house to house approach or online commitments. Here people of all classes are respected. The government thinks they owe the constituents better services and programs not having the mindset of “trapos” that we people owe them, not the other way around. Taxes are used innovatively and not sparingly to address everyone’s needs. Projects are created with the people in mind and for the people’s better well being. No big tarpaulins or names and faces indicated in every project. No claims that they did this or did that in building infrastructure because they believe in Magokoro and taxes aren't politicians money they came from the people so they benefit the people less the public glory. 

Pasig is gold. I’ve never imagined that my childhood promise not to settle in this place had been voided because of the city’s good governance. Somehow they truly say promises are meant to be broken and I’m proud of this promise I broke for myself. Truly, giving yourself a chance to change your mind is a blessing too. You’ll never know what awaits at the end of the tunnel, sometimes there is light indeed and it restored my faith in Philippine governance. There is hope, Pilipinas if we just unite and vote for the right people we will turn this dark decades of politics  into something worth living for. Long live, Philippines. May we find the light and prosperity in this lifetime of misery caused by greedy officials. May God bless us all. Mabuhay!

Let’s debunk this myth. I don’t know how people have these kinds of beliefs when there’s no scientific correlation to it. Let me break it down to you gently and carefully. Having sex is an art. It’s a form of intimate self expression and by mentioning self for me it’s personal and it’s all up to you. Your sex life does not depend on looking at someone's eyes while clinking glasses. It’s a matter of how well you know yourself. Having a successful sex life is all up to you. Yes, you heard it right the only main element for it is: YOU!

How does self awareness make this all work? First you start to know how you pleasure yourself. Knowing all your kinks, your G-spot, everything that triggers your sensuality and your wild fantasies. When you all have discovered that then no man if you were a woman will ever fail to satisfy you in bed or vice versa. 

Here’s the key. When you know how to pleasure yourself you can teach anyone to pleasure you all you have to do is communicate and tell them where’s the sweet spots and boy, you’ll hit heaven every time you ride the plane. 

But I guess this works only for normal sex but for people that are specifically DEMISEXUALS it’s a little bit complicated. You need more of an emotional connection to reach heaven. No matter how good their partners are in bed it won’t work if they are not in love with them. But then bottom line it’s still always been YOU!

WTF! If only I can tell her that it’s not about the food it’s the fulfillment of gathering that’s more important. It doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the meal is, it’s about the people who simply enjoy your company and any food is a blessing no matter what it is. 

Let  me tell you that it’s not the food that makes you cheap, it’s your mindset. I honestly love poor people’s food (if they want to call that poor people’s food, so be it) like salted egg with tomatoes, sardines, dried fish, eggplant, tofu, and pancit canton. People that know me know how I love those foods and I eat it anytime regardless whether I have money or not and they never tell me that I look poor when consuming those foods. They are even amazed that I eat those kinds of foods. So I know for a fact that having seen in public eating the so-called “poor foods” don’t make me look poor. They make me simple and humble. They make me human and relatable. And in her case she said it made her look poor probably because she really looks poor. So why blame “pancit canton” if you look “dugyot naman talaga, nasisi pa tuloy yung fave ko” since highschool. 

Some people are so full of themselves that they can’t accept their reality. This girl is way too “mapagpanggap.” Why can’t you just be real? Our team was laughing at her because she’d been seen eating “pancit canton” almost everyday. Aha, so maybe she’s just too “umay” about it, the same thing the others feel towards the usual food she’s requesting to have for the team lunch. If you are a really rich girl you should be “umay” with pizza, pasta, burgers, donuts, and whatnots. Stop pretending na kasi haha. Tara kain na lang tayo ng “pancit canton” ulit. Mic drop.

Fast forward… Sunday, May 24, 2026 7am. After more than 3 decades (32 years to be exact) I’m here at the Pineda Basketball Court as barangay Greenhills muse. No longer timid, I’m almost 42 by September and so confident about myself. I’m no longer that shy girl who hides in the bathroom just so I can dodge being a muse. It’s been years of building myself up and now I’m a success. I’ve built my confidence from the ground up and I’m too sure about my worth now that no one’s opinion can shake me. 

In this video, someone said that I’m trying to embarrass the team so she was suggesting that the team should just get someone else lol. I’m already the prettiest, sexiest, and smartest muse there. What more does she want? I’m getting curious about what Yanyan looks like? Can she measure up with me? Haha she’s so funny and I can smell the envy and insecurity miles away. The guy that responded “napulot sa tabi” was probably just “nakikisakay” so the girl can stop saying bad things since the whole basketball team knows that they’ve been begging me to be their muse for months since this very day. Haaayyyysssttt some people are just so out of touch and such a tool. Anyway, there’s no showdown (don’t know why? probably cost cutting) I was so ready to sing and dance but thanks to the experience. Finally, after more than 3 decades I’ve fulfilled being a muse. Why is Papu so good to me? 

The Devil Wears Prada 2 is a powerful movie stating that Fashion people are deep people with feelings, frustrations, and stories so deep you might not even fathom them. It tells about people struggling with loneliness, sufferings, acceptance, prejudice, and a lot more things that ordinary people might not understand. The limelight does not guarantee happiness nor being included. Not everyone who is on top and has a strong personality doesn’t have a heart. The movie shows that Miranda is just like all of us who cares though she might not show it most of the time. She had this facade of a successful, powerful woman that was so hard to penetrate for she controls her emotions. But she does care. 

Fashion is art. If you were a creative and artistic person like me it is deep in a sense just most kinds of different forms of art. It is deep, it transcends history, stories and magical transformation. Every clothing is a representation of someone's uniqueness and ideals. It is not just clothes, it is a coalition of every conceptualization of artwork, style, and sensibility so curated that it appeals to almost everyone personally. You might think it’s shallow but it isn’t every piece has been perfectly thought out from the style, colors, tapestry and whatnot. It is a perfect execution of a masterpiece just functional enough for our daily needs or some party needs. It is important because if not what are you gonna wear when you need to celebrate your debut, birthdays, oath-taking, your wedding or what else would you want to celebrate? For every celebration there is a corresponding fashion sense and fashion statement. And that’s my statement piece. Ciao. 

You just heard the shots, most of our fellows felt it sipping through their skins. You felt unsafe, most are not safe. Your loved ones might not see you again, most of us will never see ours ever again. There’s a big difference between them. You got the movie experience, we have it as our reality, yes, most of us live in  that reality. Not just for a day, but for the rest of their waking life. I don’t want to invalidate your experience but I chose to in exchange for you invalidating the harsh reality most of us are experiencing. This isn’t just about those gun shots. This is about the taxes you robbed us, the dignity you stripped from our skins, the respect you deny us, the security and safety you are supposed to fulfill but just went to drain. We cried decades ago but it went to deaf ears and now just because of gun shots just once in  your life you suddenly felt we owe you sympathy? 

Sympathy begets sympathy. Respect begets respect. I ain’t see any reason giving those things to your entitled asses. If you think you are all so privileged then let go of your positions, why do you keep holding on to our tax money. We don’t need you, you are simply there because of us. Let go of our treasure if you are really so wealthy on your own why need to rob us more? Decades have passed haven’t you amassed wealth enough to fund your next of kin retirement and travel plans? Ain’t it enough? Do you still want more? Your antics make us laugh now loudly. It isn't of happiness but sarcasm that the narrative’s been flipped and here you go all crybabies whining that no one even said “kumusta” after those dreaded gun shots? Have you ever said “kumusta” to our kababayans who went worse than that? You just heard it, most of us felt it deep in our skin yet we never obliged you to check on us because it is not our duty to tell you what should be done, it’s yours. At least you know “na dapat pala kinukumusta kapag may mga ganyang pangyayari di ba?” 

So kumusta? Happy?

Why is Vico Sotto the Gold Standard?

Vico is not perfect but honestly he is a Gold standard, the Diamond of public servant. What he is doing right now as the Mayor of Pasig is how government officials should behave. Leading with good governance is the right thing to do and the duty of a politician. He isn’t doing an extra mile. He is just doing his job. That’s how a Mayor should behave. We’ve been brainwashed up to now by Trapos that public service is a mediocre job but it’s not. They do the bare minimum and call it politics. I won’t enumerate the policies, projects, and all other endeavors Vico created in our city. We are all aware of it. Vico defines public service: transparent, honest, with integrity, with humility, humble, inclusive, functional, innovative, people serving, results driven, no bias, and a lot more. This is how a public servant acts not powered by greed and corruption, with accountability and responsibility towards his subjects. 

It’s saddening that most people think this is extraordinaire because they are so used to Trapos that a decent public servant seems to be a miracle and out of this world. This is the standard and having him just proves to us it is possible only if we did our duty towards the love for our country. We owe nothing to politicians. We voted for them to be public servants and to serve the people is on top of their tasks, part of their job in working for the government. We don’t have “utang na loob” to our government officials. We hire them to serve us. The least they can do is do their job right and well. The schools, hospitals, parks, sports’ courts, etc are funded by the people’s taxes, not from the politicians’ pockets. It is our money and their job is to properly allocate that taxes to better infrastructure and the well being of their constituents. We don’t owe them anything other than a thank you for effectively spending our money on services and projects that will benefit the whole community. 

Vico is not a hero, he is a Mayor that’s doing his job well and there is no question on  that. May he be a perfect example for all of government, a catalyst for good governance that should start a ripple effect in how to do public service properly. May we all share the same sentiments so that in the next election we will dutifully as a “Makabayan” vote for the right candidates that embody a Gold Standard not just in the National but all over the country starting from the local and smallest units of the Philippines. May we vote right in the next election. God bless, Pilipinas!

Marriage is a want. When you are totally whole on your own it just becomes a whim. You wish you are married not because of a need but because of a want. You want to be with that person that makes your heart flutter, that makes you dream even more big things. That one person whom you can share your life with for the rest of eternity. Yes you don ‘t need him but you want him because he makes your whole world even brighter, lighter and more magical. You don’t need anything from him but love and assurance that you will still be silly until you’re both grey and old. 

Today I don’t need to be married but I’m gonna be married because I want that frakkin' soul to lay beside me in my bed cuddling me to sleep and I want little people that exactly look like him giving me cooing kisses in broad daylight. That’s my fairy-tale, what’s yours?